Why Pretty girls get less more attention from guys this days

A study on factors that influence relationships always focus mostly on girls. But this days much attention have been shifted to the guys because it can be observed without much doubt that guys of nowadays tend to show a preference or make an approach for less prettier girls.

In the years past guys always wanted to be in relationships with girls who possessed certain features such as a pretty face, tall, smaller jaw bone, bigger boobs, bigger butt, right curves, bright eyes etc. All in all, they wanted girls who had striking beauties and were attractive because it boosted their ego. But the same thing can’t be said this days.

I was chatting with a female friend a few days ago and along the line we got into a conversation on girls and their criteria for dating or getting into a relationship with someone. While she argued that girls wanted to date the attractive or more physically handsome guys/men, and the rich guys who could satisfy their material desires. I told her that i personally had a different ideology. I believe that a girl/woman get attracted to a man and sometimes falls in love with him for who he is and how he carries himself. A guy doesn’t necessarily need to be strikingly handsome to get the type of girl he wants. He might not even need to be rich or possess all the wealth in the world for him to get the attention of miss world if that’s who he craves or has a thing for.

My findings show that guys of this days suffer from complex, even the handsome ones. 70% of guys nowadays find approaching a very pretty girl of their taste a heavy task that is to an extent un-achievable due to a lack of self esteem and a fear of being embarrassed or humiliated by such girls, this factor is a major reason why most pretty girls are still single because they get lesser approaches. The same guys feel they have a better success rate when they walk up and talk to a girl who to them is less more attractive.

It is the reason why the “Okay” girls/Ladies/women get a lot of toasters nowadays that they even become choosy. People can judge for themselves how attractive they are by the amount of attention they are receiving, whether it’s good attention or bad attention. Most “not too pretty” girls get too much attention to an extent that most of them start having a feeling that they are pretty or possess hidden beauties (Laughs). My candid advise to guys is to stop being intimidated by pretty girls, try to make an approach for any girl you feel suits your taste. The pretty girls are not usually as hostile as you think they are. Forget about the feeling of getting embarrassed or humiliated, because that mindset can cause you to settle for someone less than you deserve. Some guys don’t approach the pretty girls because they feel they might have been taken by someone else, very laughable but true. Sometimes this girls leave hints but you fail to pick up on the bombs and it is very hurtful on their path. You don’t expect her to make the first move, 98% of girls won’t do that, so you are expected to make the move. Not like girls don’t approach guys at all, 2% of girls do that, i’ve had girls approach me in the past and trust me, i can definitely tell the difference between slutty girls and the genuine good girls.

My advise to the pretty girls who are worried and sometimes get hurt because they are getting less more attention is that beauty is very subjective. In your eyes, you could be far prettier than these girls that you see getting all the attention. But the girl you call ‘ugly’ could be gorgeous in the eyes of the guy who’s talking to her. If it’s easier to grasp this way, think of it in terms of celebrities. I personally think Jordan Sparks is really pretty
but that Nicki Minaj is ugly. A lot of people would disagree and say that Nicki Minaj is gorgeous or that Jordan Sparks isn’t pretty. Beauty is all in the eye of the beholder. I’m sure you and your friends don’t always agree on which celebrity guys are
hot. It’s all based on the individual’s opinion, you know? The best way to deal with this is remind yourself that there will be guys out there that will find you attractive and posses enough guts to walk up to you. Just because you’re not seeing them now
doesn’t mean that they don’t exist. I know it’s hard to keep that in mind but it really does help.

The pretty girls for sure may get more looks and stares and wolf whistles, catcalls and stuff. But what about guys approaching them and asking them out? I’ve heard a mixture of answers from previous questions about this topic. What is your opinion on this?

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8 reasons you might wanna get married in ur 20s

Thirty is the new 20, if Jay-Z is to be believed. This means the 20s are a time for fun, travel, schooling, trying out jobs, and experiencing relationships, according to the new conventional wisdom. These Odyssey years are definitely not meant for settling down and confronting adulthood full on.

Hence, 20something marriage is a definite no-no in the eyes of many journalists, academics, parents, and peers. After all, “selecting a lifelong mate is difficult to do before you’re all fully baked adults,” argues Slate columnist Amanda Marcotte. Critics of early marriage have a point. Plenty of young adults today don’t possess the maturity to tie the knot. It is also true that women who wait to marry until their 30s:

• Are more likely to acquire education and experience that will boost their professional prospects and income (this is especially true for college-educated women, who make about $10,000 more in mid-life than their peers who marry in their mid-20s); and,

• Are less likely to divorce than those who marry younger (though the heightened divorce risk is off the charts for teen weddings and relatively mild for those with weddings in their mid- or late-20s).

But postponing marriage also carries risks, risks that often go unacknowledged in our public and private conversations about marriage timing. Four risks are particularly salient:

1) Adults who postpone marriage — especially into their late 30s and beyond — are less likely to end up marrying at all. This doesn’t mean — as Newsweek erroneously claimed in 1986 — that a single 40-year-old woman is “more likely to be killed by a terrorist” than to ever tie the knot. But the longer you wait, the lower the odds that you will ever end up at the altar.

2) Women and men who put off marriage and parenthood are more likely to run afoul of the biological clock in one way or another. Women’s fertility typically peaks in their 20s and begins to fall in their 30s. And a growing body of evidence indicates that women and men who have kids later in life are more likely to have children with cognitive and emotional disabilities ranging from autism to schizophrenia.

3) Adults who marry later in life are more likely to acquire a relationship history — e.g, multiple sexual partners — that can cloud their future marriage. Men and women who have multiple partners prior to marriage may take a more cynical view of the possibility of lifelong love and may also accumulate emotional baggage from a series of failed relationships. One University of Chicago study found, for instance, that women who had multiple sexual partners were significantly more “likely to report low relationship satisfaction” and less global happiness.

4) Adults who postpone marriage until their 30s or beyond appear somewhat less likely to enjoy the highest-quality marriages. Research by the late sociologist Norval Glenn and his colleagues found “the greatest indicated likelihood of being in an intact marriage of the highest quality” was for couples who married in their mid-20s. They speculated that such couples may have more success in establishing a common marital and family identity, a sense of “weness”, compared to couples who marry after 30 and take a more individualistic view of things, where “me” is often more established, and more likely to trump “we.” The irony, of course, is that husbands and wives who put “we” ahead of “me,” who cultivate a sense of mutual dependence rather than hold onto their own independence, tend to be happier in their marriages.

Given the mix of rewards and risks associated with postponing marriage, the research indicates that:

• Young adults who are most concerned with work and money would do well, on average, to follow in the footsteps of Yahoo CEO Marissa Mayer and marry and have kids later (Mayer and her husband, Zachary Bogue, tied the knot in their mid-30s).

• Young adults who put a premium on marriage and family would do well, on average, to marry in their mid-20s (think Kelly Ripa, Mark Consuelos, and their brood of three kids).

But more than the timing of the wedding, couples considering marriage should look to the quality of their love, maturity, and community support. Be they 25 or 35, couples who have the makings of a strong marital friendship, who are ready to put aside partying and the PlayStation, and who enjoy the support of friends and family are most likely to go the distance. For them, true love need not wait

9 attributes an employer wants

1. Extreme Reliability: It is rare to find true consistency, a person who delivers regardless of circumstance. She follows through, keeps her word, and makes things happen without regard for immediate personal gain. You can trust her with the day-to-day details — and your business.

2. Natural Curiosity: No one should ever be done learning, yet most people seem allergic to new ideas, approaches, and perspectives. Naturally curious people don’t need to be “motivated” to learn or wait for “company training.” Lifelong learning creates unending relevance. It enables realizations, transformations, and value creation.

3. Grounded Positivity: Life is hard, but business is virtually impossible without positivity. True positivity is a resilient fortitude, only mildly tempered by reality. It is not a facade of happiness, but the deeply held belief that you can make a difference. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right.”

4. Uncompromising Excellence: “Good enough” is the enemy of great. It allows corners to be cut, excuses to be made, and opportunities to be lost. Excellence requires a frustrating amount of caring and an uncompromising approach. It also produces outrageous amounts of value. People who are committed to excellence create better products and services than their competitors — and, more importantly, than they did the day before.

5. Unlimited Versatility: No one can predict the future. Unforeseen circumstances constantly arise that require diverse sets of skills. Versatility means leaving your job description and comfort zone and doing whatever is needed to maximize value creation. People who say “That’s not my job” don’t have jobs for long.

6. Self-Awareness: Understanding your own thoughts, skills, emotions, and motivations is critical. Self-awareness aligns your strengths with organizational needs and helps you mitigate your weaknesses, creating a confidence that will inspire others. A strong self-identity is crucial, and the accompanying success-oriented outlook is contagious.

7. Quality Communicator: Speak clearly. Write concisely. It’s not complicated, yet it’s all but impossible for most. Quality communicators are transparent, yet tactful; eloquent, yet not condescending.

8. Philosophical Anchoring: Do you know you? Why do you make decisions? What is important? What makes you happy? If you don’t know, you either have to spend an exorbitant amount of time analyzing and deciding, or you’re consistently inconsistent. Either option is a bad one for you and your company.

9. Creative Problem Solving: Life is packed with problems. Do you attack each with creativity and zeal, or continuously follow well-worn paths created by hordes before you? Do you search for the best solution for you, regardless of how it’s panned out for — or been viewed by — others before you?

Life is a learning process. No one comes naturally endowed with the complete package, and rarely does someone achieve mastery of all these attributes (I certainly haven’t). Take aim at what you want to become, and consistently work hard to get better. Joy is in the toil

How to get a boyfriend NOW!

In the past I’ve said that when you want a relationship, you have to pursue that goal like it’s your job. Thinking about it more, I don’t think relationship status is the right goal. It’s not an objective with measurable, incremental steps, so it’s impossible to gauge whether you’re any closer to your goal from one month or year to the next. So many factors affect the outcome, some of which are out of your control. Your age, your social environment, your work environment, even the economy can have a large effect.

Of course, there are several factors that are within your direct control, and that’s where you should focus your strategy. What are your expectations? Are you selecting the most relationship-worthy men? Do you take the initiative to actively communicate your interest to guys you like, via flirting or attentiveness? All of this is an important part of paving the way to a meaningful relationship, but your results will be only as good as you are.

What do you have to offer? If you want a man to commit to you, you must be someone who is worthy of commitment. If he takes himself off the market, he is sacrificing the potential (or reality) of sexual variety. The harder you work on becoming an attractive and interesting person of good character, the better your chances of getting an excellent man to commit to you.

Be Attractive

You were born with a set of physical traits. That’s your basic canvas, and there is much you can do to brighten and enhance your appearance. Female beauty is really the array of fertility cues that men seek in a mate. They signal a woman’s reproductive capacity. A female mate’s attractiveness also has the potential to increase a male’s status among other males. According to evolutionary psychologists, here is what men look for when evaluating a woman’s attractiveness:

Youth (2.5 years younger is the age difference most preferred by males.)

Full lips

Clear, smooth skin

Clear eyes

Lustrous hair (much easier to assess when hair is long)

Good muscle tone

Body type: This varies by culture to some extent, but the ratio of waist size to hip size is one preference that is invariant. Healthy, reproductive women have a ratio between .67 and .80. The ratio is also an accurate indication of long-term health status.

There are also behavioral cues to youth and health that males prefer:

Bouncy, youthful gait

Animated facial expression

High energy level

Together, these traits comprise the ingredients of male standards for female beauty. Makeup, grooming and clothing are all designed to enhance male perception of these traits. Clownish, excessive makeup or immodest clothing detract from the male perception that a woman is a good long-term partner. Use only as much enhancement as you need to maximize your natural attributes.

Be a Person of Good Character

First and foremost, when seeking a long-term partner, be aware of the prevalence and immutability of the sexual double standard:

With the concealed ovulation of humans, men who married benefited by having greater reassurance of paternity. Before marrying men would need to feel assured that his wife would remain sexually faithful. Two preferences in a mate that could predict her faithfulness were premarital chastity and the quest for postmarital sexual loyalty. For this reason, “faithfulness and sexual loyalty” is the number one desirability trait (of 67) that American men prioritize for commitment. (Buss, 1994)

In other words, don’t be a slut. It dramatically reduces the number of guys who will consider you relationship material, much less marriage material.

In addition, all of us seek partners who are companionable. Here are the traits males generally seek in females when contemplating commitment (in no particular order):

Charm

Athleticism

Education

Generosity

Honesty

Independence

Kindness

Intellectuality

Loyalty

Sense of humor

Sociability

Wealth

Responsibility

Spontaneity

Cooperativeness

Emotional stability

Please note that the following traits are not on the list:

Hard to get

Narcissism

Vanity

Unreliability

Unpredictability

Loves to shop

Spendthrift

Greed

Impatience

Inspires jealousy

Sarcastic

Volatile

Fickle

Boastful

Alcoholic

Attention seeker

Reality show addict

Yes, annoying psycho bitches do get guys. That doesn’t mean it’s a good strategy, as it is certain to shrink your pool of potential mates, and also decrease its quality. It’s worth spending some time thinking about these lists. We all have our faults, but I’ve known several young women whose personalities are defined by the second list. Don’t be that girl. Nobody will tolerate you, much less want you.

Know and Develop Your Purpose(s) in Life

This is something that is often overlooked. It speaks to Dogsquat’s comment about women who have a mission outside their relationship. You may be super passionate about one thing. If you are, you’re lucky. I always have had a bunch of different things I wanted to do and explore, which led to a lot of dabbling and perhaps less achievement. That doesn’t matter. It’s not about achievement in the world – men don’t care much about that when selecting a mate. (Of course, you might, which is fine, just know that it is not a male attraction cue.)

What’s important is how you feel about yourself, and whether that opinion is justified, or just narcissism. If you are truly worthy of your own respect, others will share it too.

We live in a time when Americans are raised to work extremely long hours, take minimal time off and juggle the responsibilities of work and family. It’s easy to lose one’s sense of purpose and growth, and with it all the curiosity that makes you a person who’s open to learning and engaging with the world around you.

I’m guilty of this myself. I used to be a real news junkie. I read several newspapers, always listened to NPR in the car, always watched CNN at the gym, and sat down for the evening news before starting dinner each night. Around a year ago, feeling pressured for time, I decided to give it up. No more news. I listened to books on tape in the car and at the gym. I took to having my morning coffee while checking blog comments. I delayed starting dinner till 7, working through the extra hour.

For quite a while, I could get by in conversations with my husband, friends and acquaintances, just going on the base of knowledge I’d already built up. Increasingly, I needed to use my husband as my source of news – rather than discuss things with him, I needed for him to tell me what was happening in the world. Finally, I became ignorant about almost everything.

Alito…Obamacare….June decision, What?

Trayvon Martin, Who?

I now find myself almost completely unable to converse intelligently about what’s happening in the world. During family dinners I am relegated to silence. My kids ask if anything is wrong. How could I let this happen? I’m boring!

This is just one small example, and easy to remedy – I can probably get up to speed in a couple of weeks of reading the paper. But it’s an illustration of how one can become a total dullard just by stopping paying attention and closing oneself off.

To arouse someone’s interest for the long haul, you need to be an interesting person. Do things. Learn stuff. Get out and meet new people. Have a mission in life.

1. Maximize your physical appeal.

2. Develop good character traits.

3. Pursue your passions.

Do these three things like they’re your job, because if you want to marry and have a family, then they are

Article written By Annie Galvin
Published by SlausonBoi 2uti

Special Thanks to Annie and Rewind for sending this article to SlausonNation

5 steps to a flat tummy in 7 days

If you want to build muscle and burn fat at the same time, you have to perform circuit training

If you want to build muscle and burn fat at the same time, you have to perform circuit training

You’ve been missing your routine at the gym very often thanks to your busy schedule (or plain laziness) and suddenly you realize that in one week you have to attend a wedding…

You want to wear your favorite figure-hugging dress but are worried about your flabby stomach bulging out. Well, you still have a last option. While you cannot reduce fat, you can lose belly fat by decreasing your total body fat percentage. And you don’t have to completely alter your daily habits to get a flat stomach within 7 days!

Step one:

If you want to build muscle and burn fat at the same time, you have to perform circuit training, three days per week. How can you achieve this? Indulge in full body exercises like lunges, push-ups, and pull-ups, for one set of 15 repetitions. Don’t forget to follow every exercise with one minute of jumping rope. You should be able to burn around 500 to 600 calories per workout.

Step two:

You have to work on your abdominal muscles three times in the week. Crunches and leg raises for three sets of 20 repetitions should be done. Also, do planks by holding your body in a push-up position on your elbows for 30 to 60 seconds for four sets.

Step three:

The kind of food you will eat in this period is vital in bringing about any change. Natural foods like fruits, vegetables, whole grain breads and pastas, chicken, beef, fish and low fat dairy should replace processed foods full of sugar.

Step four:

To minimize water retention, lower your sodium intake. This means you need to avoid salt. You can flavor your food with other herbs and spices instead.

Step five:

Stressing and anxiety can cause the over-production of a certain hormone called cortisol, which encourages weight gain about the belly area. So try to keep your cool

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10 ways to boost your happiness

Life isn’t always perfect and we all get down sometimes

Life isn’t always perfect and we all get down sometimes

Life isn’t always perfect and we all get down sometimes. However, there are many things you can do to improve your cheerfulness no matter what comes your way. From instance happiness boosts to techniques for long-term contentment, here are 10 top ways to boost your happiness.

Happiness tip 1: Watch a comedy movie

We’ve all heard that laughter is the best medicine, and if you’re feeling down in the dumps then this is definitely true. Laughter can not only release pent-up emotions, but it also produces endorphins to boost your mood. Furthermore, research has found that laughing burns calories and boosts heart health too. To get your happiness levels up and boost your well being too, pop in a comedy DVD next time you’re feeling down.

Happiness tip 2: Eat yourself happy

While our outlook often changes based on external factors, if your mood is often low it may be that you are suffering from a nutrient deficiency. Research has found that having low levels of omega-3 fatty acids (which are essential for good brain health) increases risk of depression and negativity, while research by Kuopio University in Finland found that taking B vitamin supplements could help treat depression. Try choosing foods rich in these nutrients to eat away the blues.

Happiness tip 3: Get outdoors

Research has shown that low levels of vitamin D can contribute to mood disorders and depression. While vitamin D can be found in some foods or taken as supplement, one of the best sources of the mood-boosting vitamin is sunshine, which helps the body to create vitamin D. To boost your supplies of vitamin D, try to spend 10 to 15 minutes outdoors two to three times a week during the summer months.

Happiness tip 4: Have a workout

For an instant happiness boost when you’re feeling blue, try hitting the gym or heading out for a brisk walk or run. Exercise releases chemicals in the brain such as endorphins and anandamide which can boost your mood and leave you feeling great. Not only that, exercise is also good for boosting confidence levels and increasing self-esteem.

Happiness tip 5: Try aromatherapy

While many of us think of aromatherapy as an aid to relaxation, there are also many oils you can use to boost your happiness and help alleviate depression. Good aromatherapy oils to leave you uplifted include bergamot, geranium, neroli and jasmine. To lift your mood, try adding a few drops of these oils to water and burning on an oil burner, or create or purchase a room spray containing these essential oils.

Happiness tip 6: Take a risk

To get the endorphins going and give your confidence a boost, try challenging yourself on a regular basis. While we don’t advise you to put yourself in any danger, if there is something you have been putting off for a while out of fear, now is the time to bite the bullet and see it through. Whatever your fear – be it asking out that special someone, joining a gym or applying for a job abroad – conquering your fears will leave you feeling great as well as helping you achieve your dreams.

Happiness tip 7: Talk it out

If you are feeling seriously down and have been feeling low for a while, it is important to seek some help to get through this difficult phase. Seek out a friend or counsellor to listen to your problems, or visit your GP if you think you may be suffering from depression. No matter how bad you feel it is important to remember that you are not alone and there is no shame in seeking help. As they say, a problem shared is a problem halved, and even talking through your issues can help them seem less overwhelming.

Happiness tip 8: Schedule in regular treats

To boost your happiness and satisfaction of life, it is important to make the most of those little things that boost your mood. Make a list of the day-to-day things that make you happy – such as having a catch-up with a friend, drinking hot chocolate in bed, or listening to your favourite song –and make sure you schedule one of these treats into every day. Planning regular treats not only gives you something to look forward to, but it can also subtly improve each day.

Happiness tip 9: Do something selfless

It is easy to get bogged down in our own problems, so every once in a while it is good to put our issues to one side and help someone else feel happy instead. Whether you want to take on a long-term volunteering role, make a donation to charity, or improve the happiness of someone you know with a thoughtful note or gift, making an effort to make someone else smile is a great way to get some perspective, take your mind off your problems and increase your sense of purpose and fulfilment.

Happiness tip 10: Set yourself a goal

Whether you aspire to get fit, obtain that dream job or learn how to cook something other than toast, most of us have something we long to achieve during our lifetime. Rather than putting off your dreams until a perfect moment which may never come, take some positive action and make a plan of how you will achieve your goal starting today. Having something to work towards will not only distract you from your problems, it will also reignite your passion for life and increase your excitement for the future.

10 Things You Shouldn’t Do While Having Sex (18+)

Making love should be a great time for you and your lover.

Making love should be a great time for you and your lover.

Making love should be a great time for you and your lover.

However, the excitement can quickly disappear if things are done wrong. Here’s a list of things never to do when you and your partner are doing the dance:

1. NEVER answer your phone: Whoever is calling you during bedroom time can wait.

2. NEVER call another person’s name: Calling an ex’s name in a moment of passion while doing the deed with someone else is a definite no-no.

3. NO acrobatics: Changing positions every 5 seconds, is just wrong.

4.NEVER shy away from kissing: No kissing makes your partner feel like you don’t really care about them and you’re only interested in the do.

5.NO Blood: There should be no bleeding, of any kind. This is a guaranteed mood killer.

6.DON’T fake it: Don’t pretend to have a climax. Your act might not be as convincing as you think.

7.DON’T lie: If you pretend to love missionary because you know your lady loves missionary, it won’t work out well. Find positions you both like, and work with that.

8.DON’T be silent: Let it show that you like what’s happening. Don’t be a chatterbox but don’t lie there like a block of wood either

9.NO comparing: Don’t force your partner to do certain things because your ex always did them and you liked it.

10.NO farting!!!: For God’s sake, no farting! It’s just disgusting!

Avoid these things for a great time in bed for you and your partner. Please share your suggestions in the comment box.