When you’re in a bad relationship and feel like it’s time to get out, you usually know it. Deep, deep down, you know it. You lie awake at night, wondering what it will take to make you get out. But then you come up with a bunch of excuses. And they’re usually pretty lame ones. We’re not talking about the BIG reasons, like you have a child together or can’t afford to live on your own with your kid. We’re talking about the excuses that you can keep going for years… but that when you finally get out, you’ll look back and can’t even remember what silly reasons you came up with for staying so long.
Here’s 10 lame excuses people use to stay in bad relationships.
Holidays. Holidays are always a great excuse to stay in a bad relationship. But it’s almost New Year’s Eve. I can’t be alone on New Year’s Eve! But it’s almost my birthday. I want that new coat he promised me! But there’s hardly a month that goes by without some sort of holiday.
Your single friends. All of them complain about being single so relentlessly that you figure it’s probably better to be in a bad relationship than to be single and complaining about guys you hardly know.
Your coupled friends. They, too, complain about their relationships. Hey, if everyone is complaining, then being in a bad relationship is normal, right? Wrong.
Your pet. While a child might be a genuine sticking point to breaking up, there are people who drag on a bad relationship for years because neither could bear the thought of who would get the dog. C’mon, people, you can share custody of a dog pretty easily.
Sex. The rest of the relationship may be hell, but the sex is still pretty good, so you stick around for that.
The rent. So many people stay together so they can continue to split the rent and utilities. This is probably a somewhat better excuse than most, but still, a bad relationship can drain you to the point where your psyche is seriously going to suffer not only now but long into the future. Better to look into roommates.
Not a good time. Whether it’s a holiday or birthday or you just got laid off or his parents are sick or yours are or whatever else is going on, it’s just not a good time. In reality, life is always going be throwing something at you. Rare is the time when absolutely everything is going your way. There’s never a good time for a break-up.
He’s too nice. You know it’s all wrong and you don’t want to have a future with this person, but since he hasn’t done anything awful you feel like you don’t have the “right” to break up with him. If you’re not feeling it, and it’s not just because you have unrealistic expectations, then you have the right to break up with someone, even if he’s “nice.” If you don’t, you’re liable to start an affair just so you can get out. Better to go with some dignity.
There’s probably no one better out there. Maybe not. That’s not the point. The point is that you’re miserable. Better to be alone and content than coupled up and unhappy.
You don’t like confrontation. Oh, boy, this one could go on for ages. It’s not fair to the other person to stay in a relationship you don’t want just because you don’t want to make anyone upset. You’ll make the person upset eventually because you’ll do something to sabotage the relationship and hope your partner decides to leave. Why not do it while you can still look your significant other in the eye and be kind but honest? He or she deserves that.
Have you ever used a lame excuse that kept you in a relationship?